A Survivor’s Story: Why Speaking Up Matters During Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month — a time to raise awareness, challenge misconceptions and remind survivors that they are not alone.

Recently, WNKY News 40 shared Elizabeth Wood’s story of surviving domestic violence. Elizabeth courageously spoke about years of abuse, the fear that kept her from leaving and the lasting impact of what she experienced.

Her story is difficult, but it is also incredibly important.

Abuse Often Starts Small

One of the most important messages from Elizabeth’s story is that domestic violence does not always begin with physical violence.

As BRASS, Inc. CEO Tori Henninger explained to WNKY, the cycle of abuse often begins with behaviors that may initially be dismissed — unkind words, manipulation, threats, controlling behavior or other attempts to gain power over a partner.

Over time, those behaviors can escalate.

Domestic violence is about power and control, and it can take many forms. Physical violence is only one part of the picture. Emotional abuse, financial abuse, intimidation, isolation and threats can also be devastating.

Leaving Is Not Always Simple

Elizabeth described feeling trapped in her abusive relationship, including being threatened with harm to her family if she left.

For someone outside of an abusive relationship, it can be difficult to understand why a survivor doesn't simply leave.

But leaving is not always as simple as walking out the door.

In fact, the time when a survivor is preparing to leave or has recently left can be one of the most dangerous periods in an abusive relationship.

That is why safety planning matters.

At BRASS, Inc., advocates work with survivors to understand their individual circumstances and help them develop a plan that prioritizes their safety. There is no single right way to leave an abusive relationship, and survivors should never feel pressured to take a step before they are ready or have considered the potential risks.

Survivors Deserve to Be Heard

Elizabeth made the decision to leave, and today she is free from her abuser. But, as she shared with WNKY, the effects of abuse can last long after a relationship ends.

Her willingness to share her experience is a powerful reminder that surviving abuse is not something a person should have to hide or feel ashamed of.

When survivors share their stories, they help others recognize that they are not alone. They help our communities better understand the realities of domestic violence. And they remind us why resources like BRASS, Inc. are so important.

We are grateful to Elizabeth for sharing her story and to WNKY News 40 for helping bring this important conversation to our community during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

You can view the original WNKY story here at: https://www.wnky.com/domestic-violence-survivor-tells-story-for-domestic-violence-awareness-month/

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, help is available.

BRASS, Inc. provides confidential support, safety planning, crisis intervention, emergency shelter and other services for survivors across our 10-county service area.

📞 24-Hour Crisis Line: 1-800-928-1183

You can also learn more about BRASS, Inc. and available resources through our website at BRASSInc.org.

You are not alone. You deserve to be safe.